May 6, 2019
If you’re used to reading my blog posts about various couples’ engagement sessions and weddings, then you’re probably thinking that my biggest piece of advice for engaged couples is going to be something along the lines of “enjoying the moment” or “staying present.” While I do believe that being engaged should be celebrated, I’m also well aware of how stressful wedding planning can be.
When planning a wedding, it’s easy to feel as though so many decisions about your day are outside of your control. Sometimes, family and friends voice their opinions to the point of it feeling like they are making decisions about your big day, not you. Finances can play a huge roll in dictating decisions made for your wedding. Do you have your wedding on a Friday or a Saturday? Do you splurge on the gorgeous florist, or do you DIY your bouquets? Do you have an open bar, or stick to wine and beer?
With so many factors feeling outside of your control, my biggest piece of advice to engaged couples allow you to feel in control.
My advice is a planning tool. I like to call it the Master Wedding To Do List
When you are engaged, it can feel like all family and friends want to talk about is the wedding. When is it, where are you having it, who did you hire as your photographer. Not only can answering all these questions be stressful, but these questions can be even more stressful if you don’t have the answers to them!
Here’s how you can feel confident and in control of your wedding planning process.
When I say everything, I mean everything.
Create a new Word document and write down every task you have to complete before the wedding. Use resources like Pinterest and The Knot to help you come out with a list. Be as detailed as possible. For example, don’t just write “Ask bridesmaids to be in bridal party.” Write down every task that has to do with asking your bridesmaids. Tasks may include order bridesmaids gifts, collect addresses, write personalized notes to bridesmaids, and mail gifts.
And for the month of the wedding, each week. This is how you will be organizing all of your tasks. If your wedding is on August 1, 2020, you will create headers starting from the month of your engagement through August 2020.
Now it’s time for you to take all of those tasks you wrote out and organize them by month! Again, use resources like Pinterest and The Knot to help you decide when to sort specific tasks. Some time-sensitive tasks include mailing save-the-dates, mailing invitations, booking vendors, purchasing/ordering attire, etc.
Once you see what months are busy with time-sensitive tasks, you can better organize tasks that aren’t time-sensitive like creating wedding favors, ordering thank you notes, and deciding on bridal jewerly
After you have everything organized, make sure to highlight any tasks that involve paying vendors. On my Master To Do list, I would bold tasks like pay DJ, pay Florist, pay photographer, etc. This would help me stay organized financially!
Once you have all of your to do’s organized, hopefully you feel more prepared to tackle wedding planning! I find this especially true with couples who have longer engagements. Some months, you may find there’s nothing you need to worry about in regards to wedding planning!